At Seventy: Notes From the Zipline

If I believed in an afterlife, I would state without hesitation that I’m gonna miss this planet when I’m gone and heading off somewhere else. This feeling grows all the more acute with age, given that with the passage of time and the abundance of good fortune I have enjoyed through a now long-in-the-tooth 70 years, life truly does get more precious and appreciated every day.

Reveled in, actually.

This could all change on a dime, of course, if my luck were to turn and I was struck by severe illness or debilitation. When life becomes merely bearable for the duration or unbearably wracked with suffering, then a final closing of the lids and fadeout loom as a most welcome attraction.

But after a birthday weekend of multiple events that included hosting a large gathering of folks for whom it represented the first substantial social occasion following the pandemic, it looks like this day will not be a fadeout day, and there’s every chance tomorrow and the day after that will not be either.

Projecting beyond then, however, risks getting ahead of myself, so as that book with which I have long maintained such a tenuous relationship says, “This is the day the Lord has made; let us be glad and rejoice in it.”

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“How does it feel?” is the proverbial question one is repeatedly asked when hitting a milestone birthday. “Inevitable” would be one airtight, correct answer.

As one who has always tried to face life-as-it-is rather than life-as-I-need-it-to-be, I don’t expend much energy lamenting the crazy-fast passage of time. But the pace and true nature of that passage bears some reflection, it seems to me.

This is why the old cliche that age begets wisdom is fundamentally flawed. Not automatically, it doesn’t…
If we are fools in our essence, no amount of aging will make us wise.

 

Probably the most common sentiment I’ve heard my fellow old people express when asked the “How does it feel?” question is to express amazement that they are indeed as old as they are.

“But I don’t FEEL (50-60-70-80…),” they protest. “Inside, I don’t feel all that different than when I was 25!”

This strikes me as such a universal sentiment that humanity has to be either supremely self-delusional or there’s something of substance to the claim. I suspect the latter is correct—which might, I acknowledge, simply prove I’m as delusional as everyone else.

But if it is correct, I think it has to do with the experience and apprehension of time—a subject we took a crack at via German philosopher Martin Heidegger and English rock band Pink Floyd just more than a year ago, but which we’ll address in slightly different fashion here.

Time is commonly understood to proceed in linear fashion—“First I turned 20, then the 20s ended when I turned 30,” and so on. But as the decades and memories that comprise one’s past pile up, it seems to me it is perceived much more as a zipline with multiple stations, upon which one goes forward only as far as the present moment, but backwards at will, as far as one’s memory will stretch.

For my own part, careening on the zipline back to 60, 40, 25 and beyond feels ever present and available to me, both as memory that I revel in (and sometimes cringe over) and identity that I know myself as. Memory gets me back there in a hurry, bringing the past into the present lickety split.

And what I discover there is what in many ways is a surprisingly fixed identity, a constancy, that belies much of what we like to think of as a steady change through maturity.

No, I’m not saying we don’t grow with the responsibilities and natural maturation of age. But at root, our character and interests, our proclivities and personal ways of being in the world, stay much more fixed than not.

We don’t so much become someone different than we were—it’s that we become more of who we arefor better and for worse.

If the ways that we were helped us flourish in our youth, all the better for our old age, but if they kept us stuck, we are likely grappling mightily still with their legacy. Most of us, being the flawed but well-intentioned and multi-faceted creatures we are, have both of these dynamics in play no matter what the calendar says.

This is why the old cliche that age begets wisdom is fundamentally flawed. Not automatically, it doesn’t.

We can do foolish things in youth without being fools (matter of fact, if we avoided all foolery in our youth, we were probably too timid by half). But if we are fools in our essence, no amount of aging will make us wise.

With age, our virtues blossom and further brighten us, but absent insight and self-forgiveness, our defects can gnaw at and wither our roots.

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I got a lovely pile of cards from friends and neighbors the other day, many of them funny, others heart-felt, some of them both. The card above probably had me laughing loudest, which most always indicates something is not only funny but true. Which makes it a worthy way to bring this post to a close.

Oh, the deliciousness, at a slightly variable age depending on our sensibilities and circumstances, of being finally able and willing to say, “I don’t have to deal with THAT anymore!”

“THAT” meaning some oppressive employer or crazy commute or obsessive client, a won’t-ever-shut-up colleague, a toxic property or situation, finally unloaded.

There’s great liberation in loosening oneself from any forced unpleasantness, and it is virtually impossible to find anyone who doesn’t cite it as a chief perk of aging. The caveat, of course, is to examine whether loudly proclaiming, “Enough of that shit!” isn’t just an excuse for shutting down one’s curiosity and tolerance, and thus becoming an embittered rather than liberated old person.

There are times when the demands (and regular failures) of modern technology cause me days on end of running about town or countless hours on “support” lines with pleasant, no doubt underpaid young people from foreign lands reading from manuals.

Increasingly, they seem unable to help me while remaining cheerful to the end. Which is when I feel like screaming, “Support, fuh-shmort! I can’t wait to die so I never have to click on my Settings again!”

One can apply that sentiment to all manner of other things in a world seeming to have gone perpetually wrong, as 70-year-olds have been kvetching about since, oh, forever.

Somehow, the world seems to have refrained from slipping completely over the edge, all our carefully reasoned rants for its decline notwithstanding.

Although I think I’m less optimistic about the future of humanity than I used to be (climate, political oppression, artificial intelIigence…), I also realize it will be less and less my issue to deal with as I age out of this life. It really is much more up to the young people now, and it’s worth noting that whatever my worries about humanity at large, I have no shortage of optimism about the hundreds of actual young (or at least younger) humans I am privileged to know.

That, as much as any other single factor, keeps me, for now anyway, merrily cavorting along the zipline of life, cheered to be where I am at any given moment, appreciative of all the dumb blind luck that has allowed me there, and still awakening to each day with relish and reverence for what lies ahead—and behind.

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Can’t help but notice that Mr. Gorka performed this song a bit more than five years ago, when I was a mere babe of 65…

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13 comments to At Seventy: Notes From the Zipline

  • Al  says:

    Belated happy birthday, Andrew. They’re getting more and more precious each year. I’ll be joining you in this rarified decade later this year and I plan to celebrate for at least a week. My favorite line about aging is that it’s like climbing a mountain. The higher you go, the more short of breath you become and the better the view. Thanks for continually sharing your lovely view with us all.

    • Andrew Hidas  says:

      Thanks much for that, Al. I’m pretty much of like mind about the weeklong celebration, but I only lasted four days before I petered out. (And now I am wondering about the origin of that phrase “petered out,” but not I sure want to know…) So I’m enjoying a kind of sabbath & stocktaking today. Love the mountain simile, sounds exactly right, cheers!

  • Robert Spencer  says:

    Drew, when I turn inward and replay my life, it’s more a train journey than a zipline. The constant stops at the small-town depots, bumpy rails, unexpected delays and long layovers create a progression that looks more fractured than linear. Unmemorable or forgotten moments have consumed most of my trip. However, those moments of pure joy or unbearable sorrow never leave me. They’re my bookmarks. We all have bookmarks. Still, even at a 70th birthday celebration, something special appears in your driveway like a shiny, black, sporty Beamer which makes you realize just how blessed life can be. Enjoy the ride. There’s a helluva drive in front of you!

    • Andrew Hidas  says:

      I think the train journey image works really well, too, Robert. My zipline imagining actually includes a bunch of platforms where one can step off and indulge some touristing, R&R, whatever. I actually was working off a memory of a Ropes Course I engaged in decades ago now for a magazine piece—the photographer caught me on top of a platform I was spozed to step off of but the rather highly concerned look on my face was suggestive of someone inclined to stay on the platform a good deal longer. Things can get dangerous out there! Though yeah, I sure hope you’re right about the helluva drive still ahead. I’m staying closely tuned!

  • Linda Sorensen  says:

    Happy 70th Andrew! Cheers to many more!

    • Andrew Hidas  says:

      Great to hear from you, Linda, thank you!

  • Jay Helman  says:

    Welcome to the 70’s decade my dear friend. The mountain, the zipline, and the train all resonate with me. I’d like to add to the list but am at a loss to find a worthy image. Reflection back on my personal journey evokes words such as surprising and improbable that describe both fortunate turns and a near fatal one. My wife loves to site the “meteoric rise from bartender to college president” when describing her many years with me. Landing in the prez office sure surprised me and seems so highly implausible given my modest upbringing and background. But life, as we 70-somethings know all too well, takes some crazy twists and turns. Riding high on the great and blessed turns in life towards the end of the 50’s decade, I was yanked into the abyss of a life-threatening stroke that challenged me to climb to light and, subsequently, to appreciate precious little things like walking, swallowing, reading, sunshine, family and friends. Perhaps most surprising on entering the 70’s decade was a strong reconnection with old high school pals that had disappeared from my life of college, graduate school, professional development and raising a family. The relationship with “The Boyz” has been enriching beyond imagination and provides a strong and important thread tying together the many improbable and surprising twists and turns of these many decades.
    We have more memories to be made, Andrew-the-70! Keep on keepin on, my brother.

    • Andrew Hidas  says:

      Yes, the “meteoric rise from bartender to college president” is one for the books, or certainly some book or other. Some things just defy the wildest imaginings, and I’m none too sure life isn’t more about some combo of chance encounters among people, chance combos of genes, and some gods’ notions and potions of high hilarity and deep tragedy. And here we are: among the lucky survivors, living to serve as we still can, tell tales—and perhaps create a few more along the way…

  • Mary  says:

    So, here’s some perspective: Paul Simon was 27, yes, TWENTY SEVEN, when he wrote the haunting song “Old Friends” in which he evokes images of two old men as bookends on either end of a park bench, wearing orthopedic shoes and pondering their seemingly imminent deaths, and “how terribly strange to be 70”.

    Simon’s view of aging was legion and accepted then….70 was way over the hill and downhill to the cemetery! Boomers have of course made a huge dent in that reality…in a much later published song one of his lines states “…you’re not old, the pyramids are old!’ Now that Simon is himself approaching 80 I assume that view would encompass the much more vigorous embrace most 70 year olds have on life today.

    Old age is not what is was, and yet of course, it is. To a 27 yr old, a 70 yr old is old beyond belief, and yet there’s no denying current 70 yr olds bear little resemblance to those in Simon’s song. Perspective and reality, what a dance!

    Accept and enjoy! my birthday wish!

    • Andrew Hidas  says:

      Yeah, Mary, that would not be among my fave S & G songs—”lachrymose” is the word that came to mind from the deep recesses of my vocabulary, and the pacing and imagery of these two ancient beings sitting half decrepit on the park benches made me feel old before my time! Would be an interesting interview indeed asking Simon how he feels about the song today!

  • Susan Dearing  says:

    Happy, HAPPY birthday dear, sweet Andy! You are blazing the trail for those of us yet to reach this fast approaching milestone. My late 60s were so amazing that I actually welcome my 70s with open arms for all the reasons you articulated so well in this post. I hope your celebration was indeed memorable and whatever you do — keep writing!!!! xxxooo

    • Andrew Hidas  says:

      Won’t soon forget this gathering, Susan, though my once-a-decade birthday celebrations have all had their unique character. At this age, though, I’m thinking of stepping up the pace, for obvious reasons—how does a 75th sound to you?? Thanks much for reading and even writing sometimes—helps me do the same!

  • Susan Dearing  says:

    PS BTW, what is your actual birth date?

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